EC Psychology and Psychiatry

This brief article will explore the power of attachment theory, specifically insecure attachment style and the Mirror of Self. Through the lens of ruptured attachment, the Mirror of Self reflects the voice of the Critical Inner Parent that promotes the need for survival habits. Creating a Loving Inner Parent as a primary intervention activates an internal state affording the adult a permanent inner resource that can be activated anytime. The emotional re-parenting process is one strategy that serves to repair the inner ruptured attachment wounds that might otherwise remain a chronic disconnect.

This article will introduce the reader to three pertinent concepts:

• What is attachment style, and its relevance to one’s sense of self?
• What are the core manifestations of insecure attachment as manifested in adult behavior?
• How does one interrupt the negative feedback loop of the Critical Inner Parent and cultivate a Loving Inner Parent?

Keywords: Attachment Theory; Attachment Style; Internal Working Model; Self-Concept; Adult Child; Loving Inner Parent; Inner Critic

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